tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post116513169597512424..comments2024-03-10T00:38:42.248+11:00Comments on CopperWitch: WHAT TO DO ABOUT MOTHERJahTehhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165308169915718142006-12-05T19:42:00.000+11:002006-12-05T19:42:00.000+11:00At least you can hide out with the horses Steph.At least you can hide out with the horses Steph.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165279267835169262006-12-05T11:41:00.000+11:002006-12-05T11:41:00.000+11:00Thank God for blogs! Use this space to rant and sa...Thank God for blogs! Use this space to rant and say what you like after you put on your "happy face" for mother.<BR/><BR/>I feel for you.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09486157834509821905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165276175214800392006-12-05T10:49:00.000+11:002006-12-05T10:49:00.000+11:00Phil, I downed a can of VB yesterday, the first in...Phil, I downed a can of VB yesterday, the first in 12 months and it was delicious but I'm a cheap drunk and one more would have seen me crawling.<BR/><BR/>I know she's doing this to keep the normality of her life and it's only after something happens that she knows she can't do it. That's when she looks around for someone to blame.<BR/><BR/>I'll have you know Brownie I was a beautiful child, well-mannered and docile, an absolute treat to be around and if you believe that I have a bridge with harbour views to sell you.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165232154202403022006-12-04T22:35:00.000+11:002006-12-04T22:35:00.000+11:00Thank God for Serepax and all it's little friends....Thank God for Serepax and all it's little friends.<BR/>Now it is her turn to be a 2-year-old as payback for what you put her through, back when you were 2 - they are not called 'The Terrible Two's' for nothing - and you put her through that special Mother's Hell.<BR/>You will miss her terribly when she has gone and that makes you a fortunate daughter.<BR/><BR/>X X XBwcaBrowniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11500142856655553009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165230481170959312006-12-04T22:08:00.000+11:002006-12-04T22:08:00.000+11:00Oh dear difficult. My guess would be she's not ab...Oh dear difficult. My guess would be she's not about to fall of the twig as soon as you think. But honesty, even with the manipulative, is the best policy. Maybe you could suggest she walk a mile in your shoes? <BR/>Or<BR/>You could try the very plonking: <BR/><BR/>"If not today or tomorrow or next week or next month, one day Mum, and by the looks of it soon, you will be dead. Then all that you want will be utterly transformed and you will find yourself in a situation wherein you don't know what you want because you don't actually know anything and there's a possibility that if you refuse to accept the inevitable, you won't even realise you are dead --a . . . grave error. So chill out Mumsey, start thinking about what you are going to do in the eternal realms, and stop making our lives so fucking miserable, we just want you to be happy and comfortable."<BR/><BR/>LINK.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165211152747032502006-12-04T16:45:00.000+11:002006-12-04T16:45:00.000+11:00Coping mechanisms before death are a strange thing...Coping mechanisms before death are a strange thing. From my experiences with looking after my grandmother in her final years she seemed to put on the facade of being able to cope mentally AND physically to convince herself that she was still in control. (When she went to a nursing home she pretended that she wasn't even there) <BR/>The manipulation is possibly to reassure herself that you care at the end.<BR/>Perhaps a good discussion is in order about death and what you are able to do for her without compromising your own sanity or health.<BR/><BR/>Just a suggestion. Hang in there! <BR/>Zoe xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165160832839538992006-12-04T02:47:00.000+11:002006-12-04T02:47:00.000+11:00Don't feel the least bit of guilt about doing what...Don't feel the least bit of guilt about doing what you need to do on a daily basis.<BR/>Your heart is in the right place, JT.<BR/>You and your sister should rant back and forth daily so that you can each reset your sanity meters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-1165135821848519472006-12-03T19:50:00.000+11:002006-12-03T19:50:00.000+11:00Errk. Mrs V V B works in an area of health that b...Errk. Mrs V V B works in an area of health that brings her into these sorts of situations. We also went through a degree of manipulation by my old man in his last 1 or 2 years. Whatever, you will be prey to thoughts that you may think are antisocial but believe me, you're not alone. Serepax, brew number 9, whatever gets you through the night, as they say.philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12011647023598364166noreply@blogger.com