tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post418046828430014830..comments2024-03-10T00:38:42.248+11:00Comments on CopperWitch: IN LOCKDOWNJahTehhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-72042221007130996772007-05-11T18:21:00.000+10:002007-05-11T18:21:00.000+10:00Brownie, She tried the Queen Victoria and the spin...Brownie, She tried the Queen Victoria and the spinster daughter bit when I got divorced.<BR/><BR/>Darlene, you haven't factored in 'THE GUILT' and 'THE GUILT' takes on a life of its own, believe me I've tried not to feel it but it's always lingering.<BR/><BR/>Helen, that post was really good. My Father died at home from cancer and while he was physically weak, his mental faculties were sharp until the hour before he died. Mum is quite different, going downhill mentally faster than physically and that is much harder to deal with. I've nursed her through three life threatening illnesses, physical nursing, blood, pus, innards but you can see the healing process working. This has no happy ending of life, it's a waiting game until she decides to let go.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-70782057950631046792007-05-11T13:21:00.000+10:002007-05-11T13:21:00.000+10:00"...Parents should not expect children to be their..."...Parents should not expect children to be their support beyond their capabilities."<BR/><BR/>That's true. It's important for children to know when to say, "enough, I can't do this anymore".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-86696668562401518762007-05-10T21:37:00.000+10:002007-05-10T21:37:00.000+10:00Here's something you might like, Witchy.http://pan...Here's something you might like, Witchy.<BR/><BR/>http://pandagon.net/2007/05/09/quality-of-whose-life-again/#more-5330<BR/><BR/>Chris Clarke nails it, again.<BR/><BR/>Do something for yourself won't you! Have a nice break!!<BR/><BR/>Cast Iron HelenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-51498777387188610062007-05-09T22:42:00.000+10:002007-05-09T22:42:00.000+10:00It is well-documented thatthose "single women with...It is well-documented that<BR/>those "single women with no children" that you mention, are always the ones EXPECTED to be the carer in any family needing one; the intimation being that "you have nothing else to do".<BR/><BR/>Unless you are Catholic or Jewish (where it is hardwired),<BR/> forget the guilt.BwcaBrowniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11500142856655553009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-25490043726107429152007-05-08T19:40:00.000+10:002007-05-08T19:40:00.000+10:00Well that's kinda funny JahTeh. I've had similar ...Well that's kinda funny JahTeh. I've had similar thoughts about my mum. Your sense of humour will get you through. It must be a relief to have some respite, but the organisation? Woah. Maybe next time, she can go into respite without the kerfuffle. Do you visit her there? (Is that a stupid question?) I hope she enjoys it so much that she wants to go back. <BR/><BR/>My mother is the most dependent person I know. Strange as she made a point of bringing my sister and I up to be independent, but she is incapable of doing pretty much anything on her own. Sad too, as because I'm so indepedent I'm also fairly intolerent of her inability to be same.Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346948772651971988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-13973096593481080672007-05-07T23:39:00.000+10:002007-05-07T23:39:00.000+10:00My Mother never got over my Father's death. She ha...My Mother never got over my Father's death. She has always had a fear of being left completely alone so she clings while at the same time is independant until now when the brain is affected by the medication and wandering cancer cells. I honestly felt walking over today that I was putting the family dog in the pound, talk about guilt.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17391176.post-16426734636427255282007-05-07T18:50:00.000+10:002007-05-07T18:50:00.000+10:00I agree with you on the balance sheet thing. That...I agree with you on the balance sheet thing. That really sucks. But there are many cultures that have children precisely for that reason, and its hard to say that they are wrong to do so. It is just accepted that the children will look after the old when they are beyond looking after themselves. A tough call. Our society is geared for selfish indvidualism, and I'm not saying that of you at all, I know it is not the case--at all. I don't know who if anyone will care to look after me when I get old and infirm--I haven't thought that far ahead, although I have wondered a bit. However, now or later I will always ask for help when I need it. Never be too proud to ask for help. You don't have to be a burden on people, asking for help is not being burdensome, its being human. If help is not forthcoming ask elsewhere. <BR/><BR/>If your mother is playing the balance sheet card with you, tell her to get effed. Its not about keeping accounts.Linkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12346948772651971988noreply@blogger.com